Sometimes we stay with things long after they’ve stopped fitting us…not because they’re necessarily terrible, but because they’re familiar. A relationship, a role, a goal, a way of spending our time, even an identity can make perfect sense for one season of our lives and feel completely different in another. But admitting that can be […]
We hear phrases like these all the time: Know your worth. Don’t tolerate disrespect. Protect your peace. Have boundaries. I agree with all of them. But there’s a problem. What do they actually mean? What does “respect” look like on an ordinary Tuesday afternoon? What exactly are you no longer willing to tolerate? What does […]
Most of us don’t intentionally create chaos in our relationships. In fact, sometimes we do exactly the opposite. We try really hard not to. We don’t want to be needy. We don’t want to complain. We don’t want to burden anyone, and we don’t want to be difficult. We don’t want to ask for too […]
At the end of every month, many of us do the same thing. We look at the goals we didn’t accomplish. The habits we didn’t stick to. The things we meant to do but never quite got around to. We measure ourselves by what still isn’t finished. What we rarely do is stop long enough […]
There is one relationship you’ve had since the day you were born. One relationship that has been with you through every heartbreak, every celebration, every mistake, every disappointment, every success, every ordinary Tuesday, and every sleepless night. The relationship you have with yourself. It’s easy to overlook because it’s always there. We spend so much […]
When we think about healthy relationships, we usually think about our relationships with other people. But what about the relationship you have with yourself? It’s the one relationship you’ll have for your entire life. Yet many of us never stop to ask what a healthy relationship with ourselves actually looks like. It’s probably not what […]
Most of us don’t think of ourselves as controlling. In fact, many of the people I work with are caring, thoughtful, and deeply concerned about the wellbeing of others. They aren’t trying to dominate people or force their will on the world. Yet many of them are exhausted. They’re carrying burdens that aren’t theirs. They’re […]
Many people are afraid of becoming selfish. In fact, I’ve worked with countless clients who worry that if they start setting boundaries, honoring their needs, or taking better care of themselves, they’ll somehow become self-centered. What I often tell them is this: People who are truly selfish rarely worry about being selfish. The people who […]
When people think about self-respect, they often imagine something dramatic. Standing up to a bully. Leaving a toxic relationship. Drawing a firm line and refusing to cross it. Those moments certainly matter. But self-respect isn’t usually lost in one big decision. It’s chipped away in dozens of small moments that barely register on our radar. […]
How to Rebuild Self-Trust (Even If You’ve Let Yourself Down Before) Have you ever promised yourself you were going to do something… and then didn’t? Maybe you said you were going to start setting boundaries. Maybe you promised yourself you would leave a relationship that wasn’t healthy. Maybe you swore this would be the year […]
