The crazy irony about the concept of releasing something, which sounds effortless, is that it actually can be quite a bit of work to be able to do. If it wasn’t so difficult, our world would look so different. We would have less conflict, fewer wars, murders, or mass shootings. The need for control would […]
This week on the show we dive into what it means for a guy to have healthy confidence, and how crucial it is for their relationship with themselves and those around them. Even though there are many facets to confidence in a man, here are some that I think are absolutely necessary for good mental […]
“What?” You say. Of course not. But I’m not talking about their cool new tech or their new shoes. I’m talking about the way we struggle to not take on the more invisible things such as what’s going on inside of them… under the guise of healthy guilt or caring. But what if I said […]
On the show today I talk about finding Trustworthy people to be the safe people in our life that we can depend on and open up to. But how do you know who is worth your trust? Well, here are a few telltale signs that they cannot be that person, at least without doing some […]
We can all say we want better relationships, and most of us know that being honest and dependable are some of the usual requirements, but what about the more subtle yet profoundly important aspects we need to get better at to connect? Read on to see where you are and what you might want to […]
It is often said that we “don’t want drama” in our relationships. After many years of working with individuals, couples and groups, I can say with surety that the one foundational reason for drama is emotional immaturity and lack of emotional safety. So how do you know if those things are not there? There are […]
It’s not like the rest of the year isn’t busy, but the holidays can become quite the microcosm of what our life can look like under even more pressure. Since that’s the case, I thought we could all use a little tongue-in-cheek about the topic… Be Unrealistic. Accepting reality means we aren’t doing wishful thinking, […]
We all know that self-discipline is necessary to achieve goals, to become successful and to see ourselves as responsible. Each one of us falls somewhere on the continuum between having very little of it and perhaps being too disciplined and thus rigid. In the middle seems to be the healthiest place to be, with having […]
When we begin thinking we need different, naturally our brain begins to create a checklist of what needs to go, and what we need to add to our life. My work with clients has been all about that: learning what behaviors need to go, what healing work must be done before we can move forward, […]
“Why do you always do that?” he asks his partner. “Why do I always do WHAT?” Why don’t you pay attention to how YOU drive, huh?” Sigh….as draining and anxiety-inducing this kind of conversation can be, it is far too common unfortunately. As we focus on healthy negotiating this month on the podcast, I had […]
