It’s hard enough right now not to be anxious about things. The Pandemic. The economy. Politics. Social Issues. Loss. Worry about the future. One of the ways to not pile on right now is to work hard at not focusing outside of ourselves any more than we need to. Specifically, in our close relationships, where […]
With all the talk about giving and receiving empathy and understanding on the podcast this week, it got me thinking about healthy connections in general, because without the safety of a healthy relationship, empathy can’t happen. At least not genuinely and without an agenda – but that’s a blog for another day. I think the […]
Oh, the things we do under the guise of what I call “anxious caring”, because fear is driving us to want to control the outcome. We can get it all mixed up with having “goals” that we must work hard to achieve, so isn’t this what we are to do? Aren’t we supposed to nag […]
It’s so embarrassing to look at afterward. We apologize. It won’t happen again. But it does, because until we can get a handle on our emotions, what we don’t work out we must act out. But why must we? Where is this coming from – this overwhelming urge to yell, pout, make noise or slam […]
I think it’s fair statement that almost every one of us has been feeling stress and anxiety for the past six months, given everything that is going on. For those of us who already struggle with chronic anxiety and overwhelm, this has been almost unbearable. That is why I think we need to keep the […]
So I think social anxiety is all about self-esteem, because it has more to do with how you see yourself than the other people in the room, or the other people in the audience. It’s really about feeling judged for not being good enough – this is mainly shame, but I think there can be […]
How does your family manage anxiety? We learn how to cope with stress in our early years. We experience, watch, and are taught both directly and indirectly how to cope in either healthy or unhealthy ways. They taught us what they knew, and then layers of life experiences were piled on top. On the podcast […]
We need support all the time, but when we are embarking on creating some great change in our life like the ones we talk about on show today, we need that support like a lifeline. Now, when I say “healthy support” I mean a few folks who are working on themselves too, value change and […]
Yeah, Yah do. When it comes to becoming more confident, not only do you need to work on the deeper wounds around self-esteem, some healthy boundary work and finding your voice, you now also have to change old behavioral patterns and the way you carry yourself. See, if we struggled with confidence for years, we […]
You’ve been there. There is a conversation, an argument perhaps, and you walk away having not been emotionally honest in the moment. You were perhaps frozen, not able to connect to your thoughts and feelings and so the conversation ended without you doing what you need to do. Think back to some of the moments […]
