We know when we finally do, how much better it feels, and how the hardest thing to do IS to get started. That may be because it’s now real, you are stepping into the unknown, and you can’t control the outcomes. You must trust others, the process, and the universe to have your back that this is a good idea and will turn out ok. That’s why it’s usually not until the pain of status quo becomes bigger than our fear of changing that we are ready. Here are a few reasons why it’s a good thing to get going, and why it feels better when you do.
You Have a Plan to Stop the Pain. Pain tells us something isn’t right, and even though in the moment we can only focus on wanting it to go away, we also need to look at what is causing it. The only thing worse than feeling stuck, bored or in a toxic relationship is not knowing when it will end, and that you have a way to solve the problem. Having and instituting a plan to get healthier and sometimes just get out gives you motivation and hope. Even finding a temporary solution until you can figure out the bigger picture is a healthy boundary to set for yourself, and by taking this first step, you set things in motion for change.
You’re Being True to Yourself. You’re acknowledging the truth of your life versus what deep down you know you deserve and need to feel whole and balanced. Although this can be difficult and bring it’s own pain, we can’t do anything about our life until we get real with what is…the state of our health, our relationships, our work satisfaction, and how much of our bucket list we’ve crossed off. Every time you look at things clearly you gain courage to do the right thing to heal. You are honoring what is real for you, and even though you may have to create some initial chaos to make that happen, by not ignoring it anymore you are validating what you actually need.
You Know You Want What’s on the Other Side. Half the time the problem is that you just aren’t sure how to get there. You know you want to feel happier, more confident, have deeper connections with others or do the work you love, but it can feel overwhelming to know how to begin. Don’t worry about that right now. Just keep focusing on what you want and get a coach or a therapist to help you determine the path from here to there. Then it’s just about doing the work to make that happen.
When we start, we are showing ourselves and others that we are finally serious about taking the risks to change things in our lives. It can bring anxiety of course, but it will also relieve the angst that’s been there for so long, waiting for us to be strong enough to address it.