Emotional Ownership: The Key to Healthy Relationships
In any relationship, whether it be with a partner, friend, or family member, it’s essential to take ownership of our emotions. When we fail to do so, we risk causing harm to ourselves and others. Emotional ownership involves acknowledging and accepting our feelings without projecting them onto others, manipulating, blaming, or acting out. I talk a lot about that on the show today.
One of the most damaging behaviors that can result from failing to take emotional ownership is leaking our feelings onto others. When we’re upset or angry, it’s easy to lash out and say hurtful things that we don’t mean. However, this behavior can cause irreparable damage to our relationships. It’s important to take a step back and process our emotions before reacting impulsively.
Manipulating others is another negative behavior that can result from failing to take emotional ownership. This can manifest in many ways, from guilt-tripping to gaslighting. Manipulation is a form of emotional abuse and can erode trust in our relationships. It’s important to recognize when we’re manipulating others and take responsibility for our actions.
Blaming others is also a common behavior that can result from failing to take emotional ownership. When we’re unhappy or frustrated, it’s easy to point the finger at someone else. However, this behavior can create a cycle of negativity and resentment in our relationships. It’s important to take responsibility for our own emotions and actions rather than placing the blame on others.
Finally, acting out is another negative behavior that can result from failing to take emotional ownership. This can include anything from yelling and screaming to physically lashing out. Acting out is not only harmful to others but also to ourselves. It’s important to find healthy ways to express our emotions without resorting to destructive behavior.
Taking emotional ownership requires self-awareness and emotional maturity. When we can’t own our feelings, just like a child, it means we didn’t have early environments that fostered that. It involves oftentimes s some deeper healing work, and acknowledging and accepting our emotions without letting them control our behavior or manipulate others. By taking responsibility for our own emotional immaturity and what we need to do to literally grow up in this area, we can build healthier, more fulfilling relationships based on trust and respect.