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What Doesn’t Fit Anymore? 10 Things You May Have Outgrown
Sometimes we stay with things long after they’ve stopped fitting us…not because they’re necessarily terrible, but because they’re familiar. A relationship, a role, a goal, a way of spending our time, even an identity can make perfect sense for one season of our lives and feel completely different in another. But admitting that can be […]
What Are Your Non-Negotiables? Getting Specific About What You Will (and Won’t) Allow in Your Life
We hear phrases like these all the time: Know your worth. Don’t tolerate disrespect. Protect your peace. Have boundaries. I agree with all of them. But there’s a problem. What do they actually mean? What does “respect” look like on an ordinary Tuesday afternoon? What exactly are you no longer willing to tolerate? What does […]
When Unmet Needs Come Out Sideways
Most of us don’t intentionally create chaos in our relationships. In fact, sometimes we do exactly the opposite. We try really hard not to. We don’t want to be needy. We don’t want to complain. We don’t want to burden anyone, and we don’t want to be difficult. We don’t want to ask for too […]
10 Quiet Signs Your Relationship with Yourself Is Healing
At the end of every month, many of us do the same thing. We look at the goals we didn’t accomplish. The habits we didn’t stick to. The things we meant to do but never quite got around to. We measure ourselves by what still isn’t finished. What we rarely do is stop long enough […]
Learning to Listen to Yourself Again
Have you ever looked back on a situation and thought: “I knew.” Not because you had proof. Not because you could explain it. Not because you had a perfectly logical argument. You just knew. Maybe it was a relationship that didn’t feel right. A friendship that left you drained. A job that looked great on […]
How to Stop Putting Yourself on Trial
Have you ever noticed that some mistakes seem to have an expiration date for everyone except you? Someone else apologizes, learns from it, and moves forward. You understand they’re human. You recognize they were doing the best they could with what they knew at the time. But when it comes to your own mistakes? The […]
You’ve Been With Yourself Through Everything
There is one relationship you’ve had since the day you were born. One relationship that has been with you through every heartbreak, every celebration, every mistake, every disappointment, every success, every ordinary Tuesday, and every sleepless night. The relationship you have with yourself. It’s easy to overlook because it’s always there. We spend so much […]
10 Signs You’re Building a Healthier Relationship with Yourself
When we think about healthy relationships, we usually think about our relationships with other people. But what about the relationship you have with yourself? It’s the one relationship you’ll have for your entire life. Yet many of us never stop to ask what a healthy relationship with ourselves actually looks like. It’s probably not what […]
The Exhausting Work of Trying to Control What Isn’t Yours
Most of us don’t think of ourselves as controlling. In fact, many of the people I work with are caring, thoughtful, and deeply concerned about the wellbeing of others. They aren’t trying to dominate people or force their will on the world. Yet many of them are exhausted. They’re carrying burdens that aren’t theirs. They’re […]
The Difference Between Being Selfish and Taking Care of Yourself
Many people are afraid of becoming selfish. In fact, I’ve worked with countless clients who worry that if they start setting boundaries, honoring their needs, or taking better care of themselves, they’ll somehow become self-centered. What I often tell them is this: People who are truly selfish rarely worry about being selfish. The people who […]
