We all feel things deeply. Disappointment. Anger. Fear. Shame. Sometimes joy so big it scares us. Sometimes grief so quiet we can’t name it. Feeling isn’t the problem. In fact, learning to truly feel our feelings is the foundation of emotional maturity, self-trust, and healthier relationships. The problem is when we don’t know what to […]
Change doesn’t always start with a big decision. Sometimes it starts with a thought. A pause. A flicker of awareness. A moment where you do something slightly different than you would’ve a year ago. These are what I call glimpses of growth—the quiet, subtle signs that something in you is already shifting, even if you’re […]
Why healthy detachment and grounded empathy matter more than fixing Most of us like to think we’re good at being supportive. We want to be the friend who listens, the partner who’s there, the one who “shows up.” But let’s be honest—when someone close to us starts expressing raw, real feelings, it can throw us […]
Most of us don’t even realize we’re not fully present—because we’ve never been taught how to be. We look present. We answer questions, hold conversations, meet deadlines. We might even say we’re feeling something like “I’m stressed,” “I’m sad,” “I’m good.” But if we slow down long enough, we might realize we’re not actually feeling […]
Sometimes, it takes weeks—or even months—to figure out why someone felt “off.” They were kind. Generous. Always available. Maybe showered you a bit too much if you were honest… But something in you stayed guarded. Tired. Foggy. Uneasy. This isn’t about being picky. It’s about safety. Because here’s the truth no one says loud enough: […]
There’s a specific kind of ache that comes from not being able to trust yourself. Not in the dramatic, “I’ve hit rock bottom” kind of way. But in the quiet moments—when you make a promise to yourself… and don’t keep it. When you say, “I’ll rest,” and don’t. When you say, “Next time I’ll speak […]
If you’re tired but wired… If you feel oddly irritable by midday, even though nothing big has happened… If you get things done but never quite feel settled, and it’s been a while since you felt real joy or clarity— You might still be living like you’re in a fire. And I want you to […]
When we talk about healing or “finding ourselves,” it’s easy to picture something big. A career shift. A boundary-setting moment. A tearful breakthrough in therapy. And yes, those moments are real—and sometimes necessary. But the truth is, coming home to yourself often isn’t a grand gesture. It’s not one giant, brave act that changes everything. […]
There’s a good chance that if you’ve been living in survival mode, people-pleasing, second-guessing yourself, or staying quiet when you should speak up—you’ve been abandoning yourself. And the truth is, most of us have done it. It’s why I’m talking about it on the podcast this week. We didn’t do it because we’re weak or […]
Most people don’t talk about how uncomfortable it can be to just be. To sit still. To slow down. To be quiet for even a few minutes. Because when there’s no task, no distraction, no one else’s needs to manage… that’s when the noise shows up. The racing thoughts. The guilt. The “shoulds.” The deep […]
